The Dangers of Patriarchy and Masculinity within Chicana/o and Latina/o Families

Ana Castillo’s So Far From God explores the lives of a Chicana/o family in Tome, New Mexico.  The book’s chapters are considered “episodes,” and each episode represents the different struggles and successes of the characters. Although this family has a close bond, each member carries different values and life perspectives. Sofi, the mother, is woman who had to learn how to be independent out of necessity. She left her home and married at a young age. She had four daughters (Esperanza, Caridad, Fe, and La Loca) with Domingo but their marriage eventually dissolved because of his addiction to gambling. He continued to make life difficult for his family since he wanted to gamble personal belongings and property. Apart from suffering the loss of her husband, Sofi also had to deal with the death of La Loca. During this time, she wondered what debt she owed God for making her suffer so much heartbreak. Sofi proves her resiliency and strength by refusing to give up anything to Domingo and supporting her family through tough times.

Through the novel, Sofia’s daughters struggle with their identities and this causes them to live in pain, suffering, and insecurity. Esperanza was the contemporary Chicana with the family who went against the traditional lifestyles her culture often imposed on women. She pursued a degree in Chiana/o studies and was determined to make a change in her community. Although one would think she was a strong, independent woman, her partner’s toxicity caused her to doubt her passions from time to time. Although she was able to leave the relationship, her life was still cut short because of masculine entities. She was sent to Saudi Arabia to report war events and her life was taken (along with others) because of the violence. Caridad was the daughter that followed the traditional values of her culture and ended up losing her identity once she lost the man whom she felt completed her existence. She had an abortion once she found out she was pregnant with his baby and soon began behaving like the “bad woman.” This “bad woman” behavior involved her going to bars late at night and bringing different men home. She then experienced a rape and her faith in men diminished completely. She decided to reclaim back her existence by exploring her spirituality and was on a mission to find inner peace. Unfortunately, exploring her identity and sexuality led her to the decision of ending her life with her lover Esmeralda since they thought that was the only way they can break free from control and judgment. Fe represents the daughter who assimilated into white culture. She got a hold of a career at a bank and developed a relationship with Tom. It seemed as though she had achieved the middle class life she always wanted but this ended once Tom left her. She would later marry her cousin but one could tell that she was miserable up until her life was taken by the chemicals caused by the military industrial complex. Finally, La Loca was the daughter that resurrected after her fatal accident. She is the figure in the family that maintained traditional skills in order to keep her culture’s values and history alive. In my opinion, I feel like she has ability to see the hypocrisy and malicious intentions in people which makes her want to keep her distance from humanity altogether.

One of the most intriguing parts of the story is how Esperanza was able to come back as a spirit, but Fe was not. Both girls led very different lives but patriarchal ideologies and US nationalism controlled their lives one way or another and eventually caused their deaths. Esperanza had so much love for the work that she did and although she loved her culture, she knew changes needed to be made. I think she was able to come back as a spirit because her work on Earth and among humans was not over yet. She always had a strong sense of determination so she wanted to make a difference even as a spiritual entity. Fe was disconnected from her culture and did not care much for staying in contact with them since she was miserable for most of her life. There was no reason for her to come back with the living since living was not something she enjoyed herself; her work on Earth was done and over with. It was time to leave it completely.

Questions:

Do you think spirituality can make a difference in someone’s journey towards healing?

Would you blame Chicana/o or Latina/o culture for the deaths and suffering of these women?

Do you think we really have control of our spiritual entities and be able to decide where we want to spend our afterlives?

Which character do you have the most sympathy for?

4 thoughts on “The Dangers of Patriarchy and Masculinity within Chicana/o and Latina/o Families

  1. I am not a religious person, but I do believe that spirituality can make this journey called life easier because spirituality allows you to have hope and faith in people and events. I, too, believe that Esperanza was able to come back as a spirit since she had unfinished business on earth. That is why I believe the dead cone back as spirits.

    I would not blame the Chicana/o culture for the deaths of these women. I blame the dominant culture which tends to make women, especially Hispanic women, inferior. This inferiority cause women to struggle with their identities, which later causes women to suffer.

  2. I definitely believe that spirituality can make a huge difference in someone’s process of healing if they believe. If a person believes in spirituality it can help with the way they heal because it gives them faith. I am a strong believer that in order for a person to get better they need have faith. I do blame Chicano/a culture for the deaths of these women to a certain degree. I believe that some of the issues faced such as patriarchy and the unacceptance of queer identities lead to the deaths of these women. These problems in the Chicano/a community that have not been solved can lead to the death of many women who are affected by them.
    When it comes to the question about the afterlife, I don’t believe we have control of what goes on. I say this only because no one knows what happens after you die so it’s hard to say. When it comes to characters in the story I have the most sympathy for La Loca. I have sympathy for her because I believe she lost her identity at an early age. She became the sister that was left out and who grew up with a certain connotation. She was never able to develop an identity other than La Loca, which was given to her.

  3. I do feel that when someone develops spirituality to help them get through tough times helps the process become easier. Spirituality give a person a sense of everything will be ok. Spirituality gives a person faith, strength and support, during healing process. I am not a religious person , but I find my spirituality as a way to get through rough situations in life.
    Chicano and Latino Culture does take role in the suffering of these women, Specially the believe and how the family is structured in Chicano cultures where the men lead, and the men are on top.
    I am not sure what happens after we die, but if we do have the ability to decide where we want to go after, that is something that bring explanations to many superstitions that have no scientific explanation.
    I sympathize with La Loca, since she seemed a bit different, not because she chose to but because she was given an identity by others, and she seemed to struggle in finding her own identity.

  4. I have sympathy for Sofi because although she had to deal with all these issues pertaining her husbands gambling addiction and also his disappearance. She put her daughters first and tried to give them the right values and traditions. She gave them the best she can as a mother.

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